Wondering Your Way Into Wholeness
Let's be real—this whole "find yourself" thing sounds way more cinematic than it actually is. Like one day you'll stumble into some magical forest clearing and—boom!—there you are: the fully-formed, deeply wise, emotionally tidy version of yourself, just waiting with a serene smile and perfect posture. But in real life? Self-discovery looks a lot less like a movie montage and a lot more like late-night overthinking, awkward journal entries, and asking a lot of questions. Not in a dramatic, identity-crisis kind of way, but in a curious way. I am discovering that you don't just find yourself. You wonder your way there. And curiosity? It's your flashlight for the journey.
Okay...so what does being curious about yourself actually look like? It could start with questions like....
Why am I like this?
Why do I keep saying yes when I'm completely tapped out?
Why does that one memory still sting even though it happened forever ago?
Why do I come alive when I'm making music, walking alone, laughing with friends, building something out of nothing?
These aren't questions to fix yourself. They're invitations to get to know yourself and are GREAT places to start the journey. Remember, you're not interrogating—you're exploring. You're wandering through your story, holding things up to the light and saying, "Huh… that's interesting." And the best part? Curiosity is kind! It doesn't judge. It doesn't rush. It just… shows up, stays awhile, and says, "I hear what you're saying. Tell me more".
As you ask these questions about yourself, not being judgmental but kind, you will begin to see patterns and loops. You'll start to notice....
Why that one situation always makes you feel small?
Why you light up around certain people?
Why your Sunday nights feel heavy?
Curiosity connects the dots—not to shame you, but to set you free. Because once you see the pattern, you can choose something new. You can respond with softness instead of stress. You can stop chasing the "better" version of yourself and start honoring the one that's already here. The thing is, you're not broken—you're becoming. You are not a problem to be solved. You are not a DIY project. You are not a broken IKEA bookshelf with mismatched screws. You are a becoming, and becoming happens through curiosity with questions like:
What if I didn't have to hold it all together?
What do I actually want—like, really want?
What would it feel like to be just a little more gentle with myself today?
No pressure. No performance. Just presence. Just Curiosity.
This all looks pretty intimidating; it can sometimes be. Not every question needs to tear your life down to the studs. In fact, most good questions are small and help you start noticing.
What makes you breathe deeper?
What makes your shoulders tense?
What stirs something in your spirit?
Then ask why. Ask how. Ask what might happen if you followed that thread a little further. That's where wholeness begins. Not in fixing, not in striving—but in the wondering. In the everyday, slightly messy, beautifully honest practice of being curious about your own life. So keep asking. Keep paying attention. Keep wondering your way forward. Because every time you do, you take one step closer to the truest, most wholehearted version of you.
Curious about you being curious about you,
Sam